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it is me who starts all the eye contact first he then must feel me looking at him he holds eye contact with me but like i say its usually me who initiates it first and we usually do this quite few times also the other day i was just playing with my hair when talking to him and he was watching me and then the last thing is when i was on way back from the bathroom he put stretched out his arm and said stop. are these signs he likes me too or do you think he just looks at me cos he wonders why im looking at him? be totally honest if you think im kidding myself and thanks for any answers.

Sure sounds like you dig him. I think he cares about you too.

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I was walking and there was this other woman who spotted me.She's a colleague and we're very antipathetic with each other.
(I tried to be friendly, but it never worked in the past.)

As I was drawing nearer to her, I wasn't looking at her the, but she was looking at me, she seemed a little frantic. And when I spotted her, she looked down at herself.

Hostility? What is this? This woman said I was too slow to pick up social cues (w/e that means), when I only mean to be friendly.

She was probably freaking out about what to say when you got to her..sounds like a crush to me

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What are some indications that your lover wants romance?

I think I am. Intense eye contact, sly smile, sideways glances, touching your arms or hands, leaning towards you, biting the lip, twirling hair, groping…..lol………

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There are tons of gorgeous girls at my college! The girl/guy ratio here is 3:1 What sort of body language should I exhibit when passing by one of them? What sort of reaction should I watch for from them as well?

Walk tall and proud - head held high and give a warm smile as you pass by. If she returns the smile or catches your eye you may have just made her day, and maybe she'll be interested in finding out more about you.

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Are they any good sites on how to readread body language. . .?

depending on what level.
if your talking about tells in people (lying, people true feelings for you et cetera) focus on someone, and get to know them. learn how they think and relate their thinking to their action. soon you may see other people taking similar action, in with, after a few short questions, you can made a general assumption. their are exceptions, of course, but weave around and don't make to many judgments that are set in stone.
If your talking about observing health, or a persons past present or future through physical data, look into a thing called Chinese face reading. Its got a lot of good information,and its an ancient practice so you know it works
If your trying to predict peoples actions, again look at the way they think. slowly put yourself into their shoes, thinking of every possible reason someone would have for drinking sprite instead of coke. their is a reason behind everything, even if the person making the choice doesn't realize it. overlook their moods and their out word apperence and reach inside their soul

i hope at least part of this is helpful, good luck miss

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What do Sean Connery, Brad Pitt, Bruce Willis, and George Clooney all have in common?

Well these guys all demonstrate the signs of the prototypical Alpha Male. Without saying a word, they’re able to show confidence and sexuality simply through their body language. This helps them instantly attract women.

Now I know what’s probably running through your head…

You might think that women are attracted to these guys because of their fame, looks or money. But you’re wrong. I would bet if you took away all of these things, women would STILL be attracted to these actors.

Why’s that?

Well it’s simple- these guys know how to show alpha male traits around women. Surprisingly enough, you can learn how to do the same!

If you keep on reading, I’ll reveal the secrets of how to become an alpha male with your body language. If you incorporate these 6 tips, you’ll be able to transform yourself into a seductive guy who can easily attract women.

1- Get rid of ‘Beta Male’ traits

Before you can become an alpha male, you must ditch all the body language traits which show weakness and inferior status. For instance, you should stop doing these things:

* Putting your hands in your pockets

* Fidgeting with your hands or fingers

* Slumping your shoulders down

* Folding your arms

* Looking uncomfortable

* Being afraid to take up space

If you can detect these mistakes and work hard to correct them, you’ll instantly start to show more alpha male traits.

2- Be confident

There is ONE thing about being an alpha male you should always remember…

Women love confidence!

If you display confidence with your body language, you’ll easily impress women. In order to show this alpha male behavior, you need to be calm and poised at all times.

Now if you have a problem with your confidence, I recommend you make an effort to fix it. So look within and find out what’s causing these unconfident feelings. Then work hard at fixing them.

3- Don’t worry be happy

A lot of “Beta Male” characteristics stem from nervousness and tension. If you want to act like an alpha male, you must learn to never worry about the outcome with a female.

Just remember that the dating game is not a life and death situation. So relax and enjoy your interactions with women.

Please understand that the body displays what the mind is thinking. By worrying and being nervous, you’ll display inferior body language. Once you remove your anxiety you’ll display a more alpha male personality.

4- Be relaxed

The alpha male ALWAYS shows a relaxed pose in every situation. So if you want to display alpha male behavior, you need to learn how to chill around women. Here are a few ways to do this:

* Your eyes concentrated on the person in the conversation

* You never let your eyes dart around the room

* You know how to lean back and look comfortable

* You breath through your stomach instead of your chest

By showing a relaxed pose, you’ll easily make women more comfortable around you.

5- You move deliberately

The beta male is always jumpy and ready to please people.

Honestly, one of the core traits of a beta male is somebody who is instantly ready to do favors for people. If somebody needs help, the beta male will instantly come running.

Instead of showing this personality, you need to move slowly and at your own pace. By taking deliberate actions with every step, you’ll force people to pay attention to your schedule not theirs.

If you want to attract more women, you must learn how to become an alpha male. By learning how to demonstrate this quality, you’ll create a “movie star” quality about yourself. Then women will be pulled towards your magnetic personality.

Scott Patterson
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Women are generally known to be very talkative. Give them a chance to start talking and they will definitely shoot the breeze, unloading several months’ worth of hormonal challenges unto your simple yes-or-no questions.

Hence, you would tend to think that with their knack in lip fluttering, they would find the other mediums of communication completely useless.

However, man’s fine female friends are a “bilingual” to a certain extent, and she is as articulate in body language as she is in the words on paper.

Therefore, when it comes to feelings and relationships, women would use other forms to convey their message. They would use such tools to convey their message without going into trouble. They would literally try to do it on their own little way.

According to some experts, the only problem is that even if women have their own set of language, it is still hard for the amateurs to decode the body language. In fact, body languages are only seen clearly in about 1 out of 1,000 contacts with men.

Hence, the only way to succeed in analyzing if the woman really likes you is to decode the body language that they may have been projecting but were taken for granted because you do not understand its meaning.

So to make certain you do not make a hash of translation, here is a list of definitions that would identify the most common moves that would literally tell you that she is interested in you an dhow to react on the actions.

Self-stroking

You are talking to a chick at a bar, and you notice her slowly running her hand up and down her forearm. It is a rash! It is a twitch!

No! It is a tactile woman!

She loves the feel of things on her hand, and most probably the rest of her body. A simple movement like that speaks pages. It is like telling you, “Look at my hand, pretend it is yours.”

What to do: “Look but do not touch” does not apply here. Give her a few strokes but keep your hands on neutral territory.

A touch on the shoulder, a tap on the top of her hand would be enough. If she is telling you what you hope she is telling you, she will easily focus her tactile fixation on you.

The Hair-Behind-Ear Tuck

Most women have this technique down pat. It may be an affection of the typical and much sought-after demure lady.

For the most part, it shows that your girl is a preneer. She likes to have every strand of hair to be in place; and a single one of them is out of line. That is the ear tuck power.

What to do: Pay her a compliment. Any compliment will do, but a “I like your hair like that” may just be the ticket that she has been waiting from you.

Of course, you have heard that flattery would not get you anywhere, but it will be a good start. Do not start off with it, though, because it is just a damn lame line. But throw it into a crucial part of the conversation, and hopefully, she will soon be doing her preening for you.

Puppy Dog Eyes

Awww! She is so cute. Those big doe eyes are practically begging for assistance. She needs your help and you must willingly give it.

Gotcha!

Although this tactic is used mostly for flat tires and bus seats, it works quite well in the flirting and pick-up scene as well.

What to do: When the puppy dog’s eyes come on, jump into action. Snap your fingers and order a drink for her. Offer her a chair. Do not overdo it though, because women are totally capable of themselves, and the only reason why she appears like a damsel in distress is the fact that she likes you and she is interested to know you better.

The Laugh and Touch Combo

At an appropriate time in the conversation, you whip out your favorite gay bar joke to seal the deal with your date. She laughs unabashedly, leans towards you, and plants an unassuming hand on your thigh, arm, or shoulder.

So she thinks you are funny, right? Wrong. The upside down, though, is that she is into you, downright interested in you, despite the lame-ass joke. This is her way of showing you that she is easy to get along with and open to possibilities that involve you.

What to do: Talk about things that border on the intimate, but end with a self-deprecating joke. This will keep you from going too heavy but at the same time, it sends out the signal that you like her too and that you are comfortable with her.

The bottom line is that men should not be more focused on decoding the body language alone. Trigger the quest by providing appropriate responses in return. That would surely end you both in such an exciting world of “getting-to-know-you-better” stage.

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Communication is one of the fundamental necessities of our relationships with other people, whether it is a stranger, work colleague, family member, child or life partner. While our interpersonal relationships can be rewarding, many of us find ourselves in situations of mis-communication and communication breakdown, often leading to interpersonal conflict.

Do you find that people often misinterpret what you are saying or your intentions? Have you ever felt that you have totally missed the meaning of what someone else was communicating to you? Do you have difficulty expressing what you would like to say? Rest assured, many of us are confronted with situations like this in our relationships with others! We are left feeling like we are not being heard and our relationships suffer. In the end, our most developed societal tool is also one of the most productive conflict factories in the history of mankind.

In order to tackle two problems with a single solution, we’ve devised a comprehensive article on communication - and how improving it can not only improve your personal relationships, but also ensure that your professional life is on the right lane.

What is communication?

Body language, sign language, verbal language, writing, gestures, broadcasting - you name it, it is part of the process of communication. Communication is a broad concept and its history can be traced from a wide variety of pathways. Gesture and body language are the most primitive forms of communication, being practiced even before humans were able to produce ’sound’ verbal language. Verbal language is possibly the most prominent human form of communication (albeit not the most used - it is perceived to be only 7% to 11% of communication). Some philosophers affirm that our capacity to verbally communicate with each other is the link which separates humans from other animals in the evolutionary scale.

Written language, another particularly prominent and advanced form of human communication, was initiated not so long ago - around 3,000 B.C. when the Egyptian civilisation created their first set of hieroglyphics. The complexity of human communication evolved analogously with the human capacity of learning, invoking major evolutionary changes in the brain structure and resulting in our capacity to improve (or arguably complicate) the way in which we communicate to each other. For the purpose of this article, we’ll focus on verbal communication and body language.

Interpersonal Communication

Interpersonal communication can be defined as the transactional process of creating meaning through mutually responsive entities - or less formally, transmitting and receiving messages to and from other individuals. When people are communicating, they’re being bombarded with information which, in most cases, they vastly fail to perceive. Why? Because people are not aware of the manner in which others perceive the world and themselves. They may have a rough idea, and even share some commonalities, but being able to predict interpretation of meaning to its full extent is impossible. However, it is possible to recognise some general trends.

Interpersonal communication has a core structure: sender, receiver, message and context. When the first ‘message’ is produced, a receiver will interpret that message according to his personal background (values, culture, experiences, knowledge and more) and according to the context in which the message was produced (situation, relevance, sender characteristics and more). To effectively communicate, people need to be able to align each individual’s background information to the verbal or cultural significance of the message being transmitted. Relationships are based on that common level of understanding, and the more people fail to communicate to each other, the more they develop personal assumptions that could lead to conflict.

Barriers to communication

Considering its complexity, understanding the core challenges to interpersonal communication can vastly improve the process of interpreting people’s messages, and helping them understand how to interpret yours. According to Bolton (1993) there are twelve major communication spoilers, listed in three different categories:

Judging

1. Criticising - making a negative evaluation of the other person.

2. Name-calling - stereotyping the other person.

3. Diagnosing - analysing the other person’s behaviour.

4. Praising evaluatively - making excessive positive judgments to the other person.

Sending Solutions

5. Ordering - commanding the other person to do something you would like.

6. Threatening - controlling the other person’s actions by warning about consequences.

7. Moralising - telling what the other person should do in a given situation.

8. Inappropriate or excessive questioning - using close-ended questions in excess.

9. Advising - giving the other person a solution to a problem.

Avoiding the Other’s Concerns

10. Diverting - “pushing” a solution to the other person’s problems.

11. Logical argument - attempting to convince the other with an appeal to logic and facts.

12. Reassuring - trying to stop the other person from feeling negative emotions.

Improving Communication

There are many effective strategies to help improve interpersonal communication. Effective communication does not only involve the transmission of a message, but also ensuring that the other person is devoting enough attention and that the environment is appropriate to transmit the message (controlling the ‘noise’ and ‘interruption’ levels).

Attention is the major skill that needs to be ‘practised’ during the communication process. The more attention devoted to a dialogue, for example, the better a communicator can recognise body language and voice trends. Furthermore, understanding the context of each message and aligning that to the other person’s cultural and emotional background plays a key role in creating reliability in the interpretation.

Basic Communication Skills

Such rules are beneficial for any communication process, but particularly important during a formal relationship.

1. Listening well - valuing the client and demonstrating interest for the conversation.

2. Observing - observing body language, voice tone and emotive expressions.

3. Acknowledgement - the recognition for the client’s initiative to state his/her issues.

4. Awareness - ensuring that the counsellor’s body language is appropriate for the context.

5. Thinking - reasoning about what is and what is not appropriate input to the process.

6. Verbal expression - ensuring the use of the appropriate tone, rhythm and volume of voice.

7. Reflecting - clarifying and verifying what the client has expressed to the counsellor.

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Pedro Gondim
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