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Alpha Male Body Language…!!!
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Do you know that human communication is mostly done through the body language? Now you know why they say, “Action speaks louder than words.” This same principle is highly applicable to alpha male body language.
As you can observe, alpha male body language is very different. With a mere look at the person, you can already define what is an alpha male. Now, you may be asking already how to be an alpha male through one of the most silent alpha male characteristics—the distinguishable alpha male body language.
A simple tapping of your fingers on the table is already a body language. But this is not the only body language. One can show the alpha male body language through:
Body movements.
Alpha male body language should not be rush but slowly cool enough to amuse everyone. When you move on the rush, you can lose your alpha male poise. The wrong body movement can even destroy the looks of your expensive suit and nice shave.
Shoulders.
Keep your shoulders down and straight but relaxed. Your shoulder is a very important point of giving your alpha male poise so make it as impressive by not showing nervousness in it.
Face.
Your facial expression adds meaning to what you say. Even if you don’t say anything, your face still tells something about your emotional status. That is why if you want to get the alpha male characteristics, you should keep your face relaxed. Never ever tense you jaw or wrinkle your eyebrow. Just keep everything on your face relaxed and happy-looking.
Voice.
The words you say is different from your voice. The words are sounds with meanings while the voice is simply the way you say the words. This is also important because a calmer and commanding voice distinguish being an alpha male. Have that kind of voice also if you want to enjoy the status of being an alpha male.Speak slowly but not too fast also. Have your tone very relaxed, yet dominating.
Body displacement.
The way you place your body speaks something about you, too. So, spread your legs and arms to show your alpha male characteristic. Never be afraid to take up space because you are the leader, remember?
Eyes.
Let your eyelids be relaxed and look straight to the eye of the person you’re taking to. Keep in mind that you are sexual, relaxed and in control. Your eyes will show that you are if you have those alpha male characteristics in mind.
Head.
Move your head slowly when someone wants your attention. Don’t turn your head too fast as if you are so excited to know who calls your attention. Only beta male do this very lousy body language. Instead, show them that you are a man of value with valuable time. Do that through moving your head slowly.
Breathe.
Beta male breathes through the chest but alpha male breaths through his abdomen. Doing this does not only give you a very impressive appeal but it helps in relaxing you, too.
Through the alpha male body language, you can surely define what is an alpha male through your simple gestures.
Now that you know how to be an alpha male through the body language, you surely would want to develop these alpha male characteristics.
Why not? These are easy to do. You just need to remember the body languages and practice once or twice. After that, you’re ready to go with an alpha male body language.
How To Read Body Language…
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Before we start learning how to read body language, let us first think about why we would want to read the body language of people we meet in the first place.
We consciously or subconsciously use non-verbal signs to express ourselves, and those who know how to read body language will get our meaning faster than those who don’t. Call it “speaking in code” if you will. Body language transcends the spoken word so that two people who live in different countries can understand each other just by using gestures.
We must learn how to read body language to stay calm and collected in an argument. Sometimes, it feels better to get the last word in and an argument could drag on for hours before you can detect the first signs of resignation in the other person. Reading body language is also handy when you’re trying to catch a liar or a cheater.
This skill is particularly useful when you’re trying to gauge the level of attraction another person has for you. It may take a while to get used to this whole new world of non-verbal communication, but once you start practicing this in the dating scene, you’re going to pat yourself on the back for taking the time to learn how to read body language.
Here are a couple of situations you can start paying attention to immediately:
Things You Will Need
Observe how people behave when on the phone – When talking to someone over the phone, people show body language that conveys how they feel for that person.
How do you react when you’re on a date with a woman and then someone calls her on the phone? At first, you don’t think anything of it or feel anything as you watch her take the call from afar, and then you notice her body language while she’s holding the phone to her ear and you start getting suspicious.
A woman talking to a client or a boss or a family member will be sitting up straight with her head upright. A woman who is talking to a lover or potential lover will be leaning to one side and her head will be somewhat tilted. A woman who’s flirting over the phone will fondle her hair or play with the phone’s cord. The way she reacts after hanging up could also indicate her relationship with the caller. Did she linger, take a deep breath or smile after the call?
How to read body language by people watching
People watching will hone your body language reading skills, and you can do this in the airport, in the coffee shop and in the park when you’re not too busy. Look at how people walk together. Is one walking faster than the other? You can tell from their strides whether they are having an argument or they are enjoying each other’s company. You can also tell whose the leader in the relationship (generally speaking the one walking in front) or if their in balance (by walking side by side). If you’re really observant, you will even notice how people walk their dogs and whether they’re only doing it because they have to or they’re genuinely enjoying it. The simplest gestures can convey profound meanings. A raised eyebrow could indicate shock or disbelief. A frown could indicate confusion or disapproval. Sidelong glances could be signs of flirting.
It’s important that you do not judge a person when learning how to read body language. The truth is that we read body language subconscously all day long. That’s why sometimes you can say “I don’t like this person but I can’t point my finger on why.” Or “This is a great person but I can’t quite say what impresses me so much.” This happens because we “read” and “measure” a person on a soul level and we get a message from our brain telling us to go forward with a person or not. Trust that gut instinct but don’t judge a person as good or bad by simply reading body language.
How to Interpret Female Body Language
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Interpreting female body language isnÂ’t as difficult as you think. ItÂ’s firmly rooted in logic. Just about all flirtatious behavior aims to accomplish one of three things; get us noticed by the person we fancy, get us closer to them, and get them to have sex with us.
When we’re attracted to someone, our subconscious gives in to a natural urge to get close to that person. Mother Nature, thinks, ‘Here’s a prospective population booster’ and rings ‘all systems go’ alarm bells, instructing the rest of the body to look its best. She also connects with primitive, basic mating urges, suggesting they waft out some strong pheromone scents, and put the body on sexual standby.
If you’re an intelligent bloke, you’ve probably already figured out women initiate contact around two-thirds of the time. Rather than going up and chatting, however, they do it by giving you the green light to approach them, via non-verbal flirting signals. This is the sole reason why most men think they’ve make the first move – they’re usually the ones who swagger over to speak. While it might not be the first move, it is possibly the bravest. Crossing the floor isn’t easy and few women risk it. Reduce your chances of face-to-face humiliation by becoming a master at reading the sexual signals that drew you there. These will give you a massive head start…
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She’s looking at your mouth loads
It starts with the flirting triangle and becomes more intense as the flirting intensifies. The more infatuated she is, the more time she’ll spend looking at your mouth while you’re talking. If you’ve been doing a bit of autoerotic touching, she’s got the hint and is fixated on it, imagining what it would be like to have your mouth on hers. Lick your lips and you’ll see her focus shift to your tongue. Gosh. I wonder what she’s thinking about now?
She’s lightly stroking her outer thigh
We stroke ourselves for two reasons: to draw attention to a body part (eyes tend to follow fingers) and to subconsciously tease the person watching (bet you wish you were doing this).
She’s checking out your bum
Both sexes scan the body of a potential mate but do it very differently. Being more visual and usually more sexually aggressive, men scan from the ground up, eyes sliding over feet, legs, crotch, tummy, breasts, shoulders, and (finally) the face. Women scan less obviously and in a different order. They start at the face, having a good look at the eyes and mouth, then move on to hair and overall size and build. His clothes and accessories (a wedding ring, watch, shoes) are next, finishing on his legs and then back up to check out his crotch and…his bottom. It’s a long journey from your eyes to your ass and the fact she’s got that far means you probably passed on the other counts. If you’ve been chatting for a while, glance backwards next time you leave her for drinks/the loo. If her eyes zoom downwards, she thinks you’re sexy. (If she’s looking horrified, all those pizzas in front of the telly have taken their toll.)
Her shoulders flash
When we meet someone we like we don’t just flash our eyebrows for a split second, we also do a shoulder flash. Without realizing it, we’ll shrug our shoulders when we meet someone we find attractive. It’s a small, quick movement but stay alert to it if you want to be one step ahead of the game.
She lets a strap fall off a shoulder
Revealing a shoulder is incredibly provocative. So is a glance back over one or stroking her own. Even shrugging your shoulders can be sexy if it’s done in the right way.
She starts massaging her neck
Didn’t I tell you women are great at this manipulation stuff? She doesn’t really have a stiff neck, she’s just aware this pose lifts her breasts and exposes her armpit (another sexual hotspot).
She’ll stand with her legs apart, weight on one foot and hips tilted
This is the stance of a high achiever: researchers studied executives at seminars and found 75 per cent assumed this position within half an hour. It’s also the posture of a sexually supremely confident woman.
She’ll dart short, repetitive glances your way
This says ‘Of all the things 1 could look at, you’re the most interesting to me.Â’
She looks straight at you and flips or tosses her hair
Some women toss, flicking their hair back with a head movement, others flick it back, using their hand. The second isn’t just preening: by lifting her arm and brushing it through her hair, she’s wafting pheromones in your direction from the sweat glands of her underarm. If she catches your attention, does either a toss or a flick, then looks back again, get yourself over there.
She’ll flash her wrists
Wrists are a definite erogenous zone. Back in the days when women wore neck to knee clothing, the wrist and ankles were the only flesh ever exposed in public. Watch groups of women smoking to see a dramatic illustration of wrist turning as a flirting tool. Surrounded by just her girlfriends, each girl will usually have her wrist turned to face her own body whenever she lifts her cigarette to her mouth. The second a gorgeous guy appears, all wrists, magically and in unison, tend to turn outwards or to the side.
She’ll lick her lips, fluff her hair, and generally preen while looking at you
‘I’m making myself look even more attractive – and it’s all for you.Â’
Her hands start to glide over her arms and neck
Yep – it’s autoerotic touching at work again.
She’ll do a whisper and lean
If she lowers her voice and moves her head close to yours, she’s inviting you to share her personal space. It’s a thinly disguised ploy – if she speaks so quietly, you’re almost obliged to lean forwards – but it works
She moves her head closer to yours generally
The more we desire someone, the closer our heads get. The effect is two-fold: it excludes anything else from our field of vision and unconsciously prepares us for the first kiss. The most intimate pre-kiss position possible is where both your eyes are in line with each other’s but still clearly in focus.
She’ll sit with her inner thigh exposed
If one leg’s tucked under her, revealing her inner thigh, and her head and body also point towards you, consider yourself wanted. She’s revealing quite an intimate part of her body you’d normally only see during sex.
She smiles broadly
A huge, genuine smile delivered with direct eye contact is still the clearest signal of all she wants you to come over and talk to her.
She’ll fidget with her clothes
When we’re aroused by someone, our clothes seem suddenly restrictive. Lots of people start removing layers, undo buttons, or hike up skirts. Note how many buttons she’s got undone and see if a few more have magically freed themselves while you were getting drinks. Keep an eye on her thighs as well (I know, it’s a hard job) to see if her hemline has risen along with your expectations. She’ll start invading your space with objects. Unfortunately, it’s more likely to be a wine glass, rather than the keys to her apartment or personal body parts. If you’re in a restaurant or bar, she’ll gradually push her wine glass from her side of the table over to yours. If she’s confident you’re attracted to her, she’ll leave it (and her hands) there, hoping you’ll touch them.
Brain Body Communication – Do You Mind How Your Body And Brain Talk To Each Other
Posted by: | Comments“I can no longer make a strong distinction between the brain and the body.” – Dr. Candace Pert, internationally recognized pharmacologist and psychoneuroimmunology researcher.
Dr. Pert, through her research, observed the very close interaction of brain and body. She determined that the interaction was so close that there was virtually no distinction between what was body function and what was brain function. It all works together.
What is the mind? Perhaps our “mind” is the combination of our brain and body working as one. It is the complete unit that allows all of our functions.
Our mind is us. We are our mind. All one unit, complete.
Dr. Bernie Siegel, oncologist, tells lots of lessons he learned over the course of his medical practice about the power of the mind. His books share stories about bodies being healed, and death being postponed, by thoughts and beliefs. While he does not say that we cause our own illnesses, he does say minds are powerful. Dr. Siegel encourages people to continue living until they die, rather than dying while they are still alive.
What about the messages your brain sends to your body? What are your thoughts?
“My back is killing me!” “The humidity is killing me!” When your body hears those messages, how can it respond? Perhaps by dying a little, because, after all, it is being “killed.”
What about the media? When you watch distressing news, your brain interprets the bad news as stress. You can feel the stress in your body. That’s another brain-body total interaction. When one is affected, so is the other. It’s unavoidable. Your mind knows.
What about good news, funny stories, happy photos? What happens when you are uplifted or laugh? Happy brain, happy body. Your mind knows.
So, we definitely have a brain-body-mind. Let’s MIND what we tell our brain and our body!
By Kathryn Merrow
Top 10 Tips in Dating Body Language
Posted by: | CommentsIf you have trouble working out whether or not your date is interested in you, the top 10 tips in dating body language could be exactly what you need.
1) Eyebrow Flash
The very first signal a person will give to indicate that they are attracted to someone is the ‘eyebrow flash’. If you notice your dating partner’s eyebrows briefly rise and fall when they see you, this is a sign they are instantly attracted to you. If not, don’t worry – it only lasts a moment so can be difficult to spot.
2) Smiling
Dating is all about finding out if you can enjoy being in your date’s company, so hopefully it will be obvious that your date is enjoying yours. A broad smile which reaches the eyes is a sure sign that your date is enjoying themselves.
3) Pointing
If the person you are dating is interested in you and engaged with what you are saying, they will unconsciously angle their body towards you. If someone is wary of revealing their true feelings, they may try to control their body language, but their feet will usually give the game away. If your dating partner’s feet are angled towards you, that is a good sign.
4) Mirroring
Mirroring is the term used to describe how people tend to copy the behavior of a person they are attracted to. If your date is mimicking your movements or gestures then this is a sign they are interested.
5) The Triangle
With new acquaintances, we tend to look just at the eyes in a zig-zag motion. With people we know a bit better we might include the nose and mouth to create a small triangle. If your dating partner’s gaze starts to create a larger triangle, including the mouth (perhaps even lingering there) and other parts of the body, this can be a sign they are interested.
6) Eye contact
Strong and frequent eye contact can be a positive sign that your dating partner is attracted to you. However, if your date is shy, a lack of eye contact could still mean the same thing.
7) Self-touching
If you notice your dating partner lightly touching or stroking their hand or arm for example while talking to you, this can be an unconscious signal that they are interested in you.
Blinking
If the person you are dating likes you, their pupils will dilate and they will blink more often. However, pupils also dilate in the dark, so try not to get the two mixed up!
9) Grooming
If the person you are dating smooths down their hair, adjusts their clothing or makes an effort to sit up straight, these are all good signs which show they care about putting across their best self to impress you.
10) Physical contact
If your date touches you gently, for example on the arm or back, this is a very positive sign which shows they feel comfortable with you and are happy to develop a warm and informal connection.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Emily_Heart
Natural Health Care Through Bitter Melon
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Bitter melon or karela is now days very popular among people world wide. The reason for this is its potential to reduce the blood sugar levels. Karela has certain properties that are extremely helpful in curbing diabetes mellitus or commonly known as blood sugar. It is an herb that is very much helpful not only in maintaining the normal levels of sugar in the body but is also helpful in maintaining the normal functioning of the body.
The condition of hyperglycemia occurs when our body is unable to maintain the normal sugar level in the blood due to disturbances in sugar metabolism. Sugar metabolism is maintained by insulin, a protein that is secreting from islet of langerhans present in pancreas. This insulin disturbance can be metabolic or some or due to some other factors. Karela is very helpful in maintaining regular section of insulin in the body and also helps in proper maintenance of blood sugar level in the body.
Bitter melon is known as karvelak in Sanskrit and Momordica charantia in botanical terms language. It is a tendril vine that grows to 4 to 5 meters. The leaves are alternate and are parted by 3 to 8 lobes. The plant bears male and female flowers separately. The fruit is oblong in appearance and if or green color. The skin is rough and is of barrel shape. In the fruit, seeds are present that are 15 to 25 in number. These are highly bitter in taste.
Uses
· Diabetes â?? it is world wide accepted fact that bitter melon is very effective in treating diabetes. Hence it is popularly known as plant protein globally. Chemically karela contains a compound that is very similar to that of insulin that is sometimes referred to as p-insulin. Researches have shown that when the extract of this p-insulin is given subcutaneously has been quite effective in substituting the insulin from the body. Hence is a good vegetable substitute for insulin. Karela has been an herb of choice to curb the blood sugar level in the body. It helps in stimulating pancreas to secrete insulin which other wise had been restricted. There has been about three such constituents that are really very effective in treating the raised sugar levels in the blood. These include steroidal saponins called charantin, peptides similar to that of peptides and certain alkaloids. To be frank is uncertain that out of these which is the compound that is actually regulating sugar levels but it is for sure that a person gets a good relief.
· Indigestion â?? it is a good digestive agent and helps in stimulating the secretion of gastric juices. It is also helpful in stimulating liver for secretion of bile juices that are very essential for metabolism of fats. It helps in improving the peristaltic movements hence it is very helpful in avoiding gastric disturbances.
· Dyspepsia â?? as the karela is very helpful in maintaining the normal condition of the digestion hence it is useful in preventing condition like dyspepsia.
· Constipation â?? this is a condition that is affecting millions of people world wide and the main reason for this is the faulty feeding habits and unhealthy dietary practices. These all can be relived by consuming karela juice on regular bases. It not only relives from the indigestive condition but also helps in combating the constipation. It improves peristaltic movements of gastro intestinal tract and also improves the absorption in the intestines.
· Heart burn â?? heart burn is common among people these days. It as condition of burning sensation in the chest region. This happens because of indigestion. Due to indigestion, excess of the hydrochloric acid is produced in the body thereby leading to this burning sensation. By regular consumption of karela juice, the digestion in the body is kept to the optimized level hence the problem of heart burn is resolved.
· Anti inflammatory â?? karela is a good anti-inflammatory agent. It helps in reducing any edematous condition in the body. It helps in regularizing the circulatory system thereby normalizing the blood flow. This helps in reducing any kind of inflammation that occurs in the body.
· Ulcers â?? karela is very effective in treating the gastric as well as duodenal ulcers. It has the tendency to maintain the normal production of gastric juices and acids there by protect the mucus membrane from getting depleted due to exposure to these harsh condition.
Dr John Anne
http://www.articlesbase.com/alternative-medicine-articles/natural-health-care-through-bitter-melon-131990.html
Understanding the Natural Process of Childbirth
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Over the past few millions of years, humans and mamals have been giving birth without the use of hospitals, doctors or epidurals, for the most part, very effectively. The female body is designed to give birth very successfully and efficiently without the need for conscious control. In fact, the more you try to control the functioning and experiences within your body as you go through labour and childbirth, the more uncomfortable, stressful and prolonged your experience will be. Here’s why…
The thinking part of your brain, called the neocortex, is responsible for your intellect. This part of the brain, when stimulated, will try to rationalise, criticise, control and generally act very ‘human’ towards a situation. The neocortex is stimulated by language, bright lights, feeling observed and certain forms of touch. If this part of the brain is stimulated during childbirth, it will prevent the ‘animal’ side of the brain from functioning effectively.
During childbirth, if a woman’s neocortex is stimulated the whole birthing process will slow down. Being asked to think (for example asking what her phone number, national security number or postcode is), being in a room with bright lights, being watched by one or more people or being touched in an irritating rather than relaxing way, a labouring woman will be taken out of her ideal state and become self-conscious, fearful and her muscles will tighten and create pain.
Allowing a labouring woman to relax and to ‘zone out’, turning off her neocortex, will make her labour more comfortable, faster and easier. This applies to the whole of the labour, from the beginning of the first stage right through to the delivery of the placenta. Staying in a non-thinking, meditative, animal state will help you to experience the birth of your child in a more Joyful way.
By understanding the process your body will undergo to allow your baby to be born will help you to feel more confident and relaxed.
During the first stage of labour, your uterus will be stimulated by the hormone oxytocin to allow the muscles to pull upwards. This allows your cervix to become thinner and move out of the way to allow your baby to pass through your virgina. This means your cervix is dilating. Your cervix can dilate very quickly, so even if you’ve been having contractions for a while and you’re 5cm dilated, you may become fully dilated within an hour if you’ve allowed the conditions to be right (relaxed, unobserved, dim lighting and possibly contact with water).
With each contraction, remember that you are getting closer and closer to holding your baby in your arms for the first time. This is a Joyful process and your baby is looking forward to seeing you just as much as you are if him/her. Having negative thoughts and feelings about your contractions will make them feel even more negative. Feeling postive in your thoughts and emotions will allow the experience to be easier and faster.
Once your cervix is fully dilated (about 10cm), your uterus will respond by squeezing your baby’s bottom (if they’re head down) helping to push your baby downwards and out through your vagina. The wall of your vagina will already be lubricated by a pinkish substance to help your baby slip through. Make sure you’re still focusing on relaxing your breathing at this stage as your pelvic floor muscles around the opening of your vagina will need to be relaxed to allow a more comfortable birth.
Just before the second stage of labour starts, you’re likely to feel a mix of emotions. It is at this point that many women opt to have drugs to ease the experience. A certain amount of pain during labour is very healthy and in fact essential for a Joyful Childbirth. Once your baby has been born, both of you will have a huge cocktail of hormones running through you, one of them being an endorphin that will make you feel fantastic and help with the bonding between you and your baby. By using painkilling drugs, you are likely to disrupt this cocktail of hormones and your experience of childbirth will be hampered.
Ask your midwife/medical carers not to offer you medication throughout your labour, and to only give you medication if you ask for it (in fact I would say if you ask for it more than once, just in case you can go without it). It is standard procedure to ask a woman if she would like medication, and at the point of transition (just before it’s time to push) you’re likely to accept anything.
During the labour and the ‘crowning’ of your baby, you’re likely to feel the whole region as being very warm and expansive. Your bones, joints and muscles in and around your pelvis are making way for your baby and they’ve had nine months to prepare so are more than capable of doing this job. You won’t be the first or last woman to think you’re going to explode during childbirth as your body shifts and changes. But as far as I’m aware no woman has exploded yet!
Once your baby is born, you and your new baby will both have a huge rush of hormones running through you. Dr Michel Odent discribes these as a ‘cocktail of Love’. It is very important for you and your baby that you are not disturbed during this time. Not only will it help with breastfeeding, but also with the bonding of you and your baby and your memory of childbirth. These hormones will make you feel full of life and love even if you’ve just come through a long labour. Painkillers can often disrupt this process. Ask your midwife and partner to leave you alone with the baby for an hour following the birth so you can focus your whole attention onto your baby (if you ask for an hour, then if you get a bit less it’s better than asking for half an hour and getting a bit less). It is important to stay warm at this time to allow the hormones to release.
The birth of the placenta, according to Dr Michel Odent is not too important… the only thing that is important is to allow the placenta to release itself from the uterus walls naturally. Using a synthetic drug rather than the natural release of oxytocin increases the risk of bleeding compared to being left alone with your baby to increase your own natural oxytocin release. Synthetic oxytocin may also inhibit the natural release of oyxtocin needed for breastfeeding shortly after birth.
The hormones that are rushing around your body during pregnancy and birth will be opening your emotions as well as your body. Feeling very open and vulnerable is very healthy and normal during childbirth and gives you the opportunity to let more feelings of love run through you. So long as you feel safe and relaxed with the people you are with and the place you are in, the birth of your child can be a truely Joyful and empowering experience.
Samantha Thurlby-Brooks
http://www.articlesbase.com/health-articles/understanding-the-natural-process-of-childbirth-189813.html
Reading Emotions Through Body Language
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Effective communication does not just mean knowing the right words to say. Emotions and body language also play a very important role in getting your message across. In fact, body language says a lot about what you’re feeling and thinking as of the moment. People who are transparent could get themselves in trouble.
Most Hollywood celebrities and salespeople have already perfected the technique of keeping a poker face and staying still in the midst of a major hurdle (as with the case of gossip-ridden movie stars) or if they are being told something quite contrary to their point (as with people in the sales industry).
However, most of us do not have this skill of controlling our reactions to events and things said. Thus, knowing how to read a person’s emotions based on his or her body language and gestures is important for effective communications. Not only will this knowledge be able to help you rise above the pack, but also keep your nose clean.
How do you know if somebody is anxious, angry, happy, surprised, or sad by judging only his body movements? Here are some ways you can read emotions by observing body language.
If a person is happy he…
- smiles a lot. We might even find him doing a little skip as he walks.
- has relaxed facial muscles and fluid movements
- hums or sings to himself
If a person is anxious he…
- has a pale face and dry lips
- starts perspiring profusely
- fidgets a lot and has shifty eyes
- keeps shaking his leg or tapping his foot
- makes sudden movements after a while of being still
- stutters
If a person is angry he…
- pounds his fist on the table and uses a loud voice to speak
- clenches his fist and leans forward when talking to you
- bares his teeth and appears to be snarling as he talks
- has tense muscles
If a person is surprised he…
- suddenly opens his mouth (hence, the expression ‘my jaw dropped’)
- suddenly takes a step back
- widens his eyes or clamps his hand over his mouth
If a person is sad he…
- has trembling lips
- is not able to look you straight in the eye and sometimes even has tears forming
- slumps his body
- uses a rather flat or weak tone of voice
These are only a few of the indicators of the key emotions any human being feels. Some might even overlap. For instance, a person with shifty eyes may be either lying or just nervous; so, in order for you to effectively interpret what he is feeling, you have to take the context of the conversation in point.
When you think about it, part of body language reading is skill and part is sensitivity. There really is no clear-cut rule as to what kind of body language pertains to what emotion, but there are general signals that can be found in most people.
In short, reading body language does not take knowledge of rocket science. Because body language is part of daily living, anybody who does not exhibit any kind of body language is considered wooden, as with a mannequin that has just one expression and pose all throughout. Because we are humans, we succumb to our emotions sometimes. And it is through body language that we convey messages that we don’t have the courage to say out loud.
Michael Lee
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/reading-emotions-through-body-language-124274.html
How to Speak Fluent Body Language
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You’ve probably heard the expressions before.. “Chin up, shoulders back,” “Keep your distance,” “Feet on the ground,” “Pain in the neck.” But have you ever wondered how they came about? It all has to do with Body Language.
Simply put, body language is the unspoken communication we all use in every face-to-face encounter with other human beings. You could say it’s more powerful than anything said aloud. Ninety-three per cent of our everyday communications is non-verbal. Only 7% has to do with words at all. You could be telling that other person much more with your body language than you would ever say in words.
Determining and regulating your own body language could well mean the difference when it comes to job interviews, networking meetings, banquets and business dinners, or even a social occasion, such as a date. Even trickier is learning to read and understand the other person’s body language.
So, you’re probably asking yourself, “How do I regulate my body language to give a true representation of how I feel when I interact with others?”
Start with the distance between you and the person with whom you’re speaking. If you get too close, people feel you’re in their face, or too pushy. Too far away, and you could be seen as standoffish.
The angle of your body is a dead giveaway to others. We tend to angle our body towards those people we find friendly or interesting, and angle away from those we feel are cold or unfriendly. Crossing your arms over your chest shows defensiveness. This posture says, “I’m closed off and keeping you out.”
Eye Contact is one of the most important ways to communicate with others. Looking them in the eye shows respect and interest. We’ve all experienced the person who looks constantly at their watch, or seems to be far away and not listening to us. Their body language says, “I have other places to be and other more interesting people to talk to than you.” Or the person that you know is not listening to what you’re saying, but instead is busy deciding what he/she will say next. Someone whose eyes are downcast, not looking you in the eye could be exhibiting signs of shyness, or it could be deceit. Someone who is lying to you will not look you in the eye.
The head position also says a lot. To show confidence or authority, simply keep your head level. This says, “Take me seriously, my words are important.” To show friendliness and interest in what the other person is saying, tilt your head slightly to one side or the other.
Mouth movements are easy clues to what the other person may be feeling. If they purse their lips or twist them, they could be thinking carefully about what you just said, or disagreeing with you, but holding back comment. You can certainly tell when someone is not pleased.
The handshake is extremely important in the communication with others. No one wants to shake a hand like a wet noodle; at the same time, a handshake needn’t be a contest of strength. It’s a handshake, not arm wrestling. Many people also don’t quite know what to do with their hands after the handshake, especially when meeting someone new. They tend to clasp their hands together, nervously, or fiddle with their jewelry.
Since we’re constantly sending out these powerful messages, it’s clear we should make an effort to learn more about what our bodies say to others. And learning what others are really saying to us is of paramount importance in our day-to-day communications.
So, chin up, shoulders back, keep your distance, head up, eyes sharp, don’t be pushy or standoffish, smile and shake that hand. You too can learn to speak fluent body language.
Michael Lee
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Ken Wilber Thought as Passion
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This is the definitive guide to the life and work of Ken Wilber, widely regarded and passionate philosopher of our times. In this long overdue exploration of Wilber\’s life and work, Frank Visser not only outlines the theories of this profound thinker, but also uncovers his personal life, showing how his experiences influenced and shaped his writing. Wilber\’s impressive body of work, including nineteen books in more than thirty languages, brings together science and religion, philosophy, art, culture, East and West, and places them within the all-encompassing perspective of evolution. Visser\’s book follows Wilber\’s four distinct phases as he reveals not only the story behind Wilber\’s writing, but also the man behind the ideas. In recounting the course of Wilber\’s life and the motives that led him to the subjects he has written so much about, Visser uncovers the intricacies of one of the world\’s most important intellectuals. Included in this indispensable resource is a complete bibliography of Wilber\’s work.