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Jun
23

Body Language Video 4 – The Body of Seduction for the PUA

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Jun
23

How to tell if he’s flirting with you by reading his body language: How to flirt

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Jun
23

Body Language Observation-Study

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Jun
16

Male Confidence Course Day 1

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Jun
15

What To Say When There’s Nothing to Say

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If you’re anything like me, you’ll have days when you wake up in the morning with that feeling of dread: when I get back to my creative work, I won’t have anything to say.

It’s an awful feeling. The ground seems to fall away from under me and in its place arises. P A N I C! The brain takes over, accelerates to hyperwarp speed and zooms off in its familiar search mode, rushing hither and yon in sheer desperation to find something intelligent to say. Something that makes some sense, that communicates something of importance, that will astound my readers with my wisdom and the depth of my experience and knowledge. Something that will contribute in some significant way to the well-being of this troubled world and my fellow-citizens. Something that will, well, validate me and make me feel good about myself.

Oh, and the counterpoint of course is this: if I don’t have anything to say, I’m worse than useless. I’m a parasite. I’m a fraud. I know it’s pretty stupid thinking, really. But the feeling is a real one.

So what to do about it? First thing, of course, as always, is to take a breath. One of the well-known human responses to panic is to stop breathing—as though that would help! So it’s important to sit quietly and restore this simple and most basic act by consciously observing the breath as it enters and leaves the body, and allowing it gradually to replace the brain activity with its calming discipline. Breathing out, breathing in. And when you think of it, that in itself is inspiration, isn’t it?

That done, I personally have several games I play to get back into the process of creation. Because that’s what it’s about: creative work is never, for me, about “saying something.” It’s about process. It’s a dance, an interaction with medium, no matter what your medium might be: words, paint, clay, song, musical notes. As a French poet said, poetry is not a use of language; it’s a madness inside language. The need to have “something to say” is no more than a barrier we put up when we’re too worried, too scared, too timid, too mistrustful to let it out and damn the consequences.

(I wrote a book once whose title was”While I Am Not Afraid.” The title—which said a lot about the spirit in which the book was written—came from a marvelous text by the photographer Duane Michels, which he used as a companion piece to the photograph of a male nude. It said this:

Let me write this now,
This very moment,
While I am still foolish,
Before I become sensible again
And know better;
And while I am not afraid
To say things out loud.

A text, in my book, to live by!)

So then, one of the games I play is to prolong my breath-recovery into an actual meditation session in which I purposefully try to nudge all intruding thoughts away and give the mind the simplest (and hardest!) of all tasks: to focus exclusively on the breath itself. What happens most frequently when I succeed is that the unconscious mind takes over and keeps working while my brain is busy with its concentration on the breath; when I open my eyes and return to the normal state of being, guess what? The unconscious mind has done the spadework for me. The words start effortlessly to flow. I’m ready to go.

Another game also requires some quiet reflection time: I tell myself the story of yesterday. It’s not necessarily a narrative that comes up—although it might be. Very often, though, it’s a single moment, an event, a mini-epiphany that arises, perhaps one that I simply passed over as it occurred and allowed to disappear unnoticed and unmemorialized into the past. It could be no more than a glance from a stranger in a crowd, the movement of a hand, the expression on a face. It could be the turn not taken, the adventure passed up in favor of the familiar route. But yesterday, for me, is always filled with moments rich in opportunity, in unprocessed, unrecorded matter—an abundant source of “what to say.”

As is, of course, the Now. Sometimes, I find, I have only to look around me. The images are there. The signs. The picture of my grandfather, the dog in a patch of sunlight on the carpet, the notepad on my desk with a couple of words scribbled out on it. Each moment is a complex mother lode, replete with particular and inscrutable meaning, awaiting nothing but my pick and shovel to start mining it.

Just as fruitful, as a resource for that first image, that first word, that first “idea” is the daily newspaper. You don’t have to be looking for news. There’s a surprising wealth of discrete images—in the photographs, the ads, the texture of the words. Pages and pages crammed with stories, people, insights, problems, conflicts. We need not take them literally. The imagination, once it’s opened up and ready for adventure, can seize on anything and run with it. What happens all too frequently is that the search for that “something to say” is precisely what shuts the imagination down, turns it off, or freezes it into inertia. Meantime the opportunity is right there, staring us in the face from a common newspaper—not to mention the inexhaustible resource of books and images that others have created in their search. Don’t get me started!

Not least, there are dreams and fantasies. I’m not actually very good at remembering dreams myself, though I do believe that we can train our minds to recall where they take us in our sleeping hours. Inevitably, though, when I do remember them, my dreams create wonderful paths to follow as I write them down. Again, I’m careful not to be too attached to trying to accurately recall the detail. Once I’m on the path, I tend to follow where the words and images are leading me, rather than the strict narrative of the dream. It’s the medium I trust to show me where I need to go.

Whatever game I choose to play, here’s the thing: it’s not only ludicrous for me to tell myself that I have nothing to say. It’s also a damn lie. The more honest truth is that it’s impossible NOT to have anything to say. As soon as I open my mouth, complete a gesture, perform an action, no matter how seemingly trivial, I have created meaning. I have “said something.” My very inaction, my paralysis says something, as does my panic.

So I take heart when that feeling surfaces. I remind myself that it’s always possible to step around this self-created barrier and venture forth, beyond it, into the unknown which is where creation happens. And I try to remind myself, as I start out on that next adventure, that I’m better off if I don’t have the least idea what I’m looking for until I’ve found it.

Peter Clothier
http://www.articlesbase.com/writing-articles/what-to-say-when-theres-nothing-to-say-59555.html


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Jun
15

Briefly in Borneo A Sight Inspection

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I’ve embark on a journey of jet-lag so hard core, it could challenge an astronaut. Borneo beckons because I’ve never been there. A mere 5 hours to LAX, 12 to Tokyo, 7 to Singapore and 3 to Kota. Mind you this is just one way not including layover times.

Seated in economy class, I expect my body will dehydrate to a prune, my muscles atrophy, pores clog and I’ll bloat with “jet belly” but it’s ok. Bottom line is, I love airplanes. The near insanity of this that it’s only a 5 day visit and I’m spending nearly as much time on land as I will in the air.

The best perk of my job are the site inspections, that is to witness first hand what my groups will experience if a destination is new to me. This is far on my globe. Prior to departure, I surveyed friends asking them, “Where is Borneo?” Only 10% answered correctly. This time I bring Terry and wonder of his fortitude in tow. But he proves to be a good aviation warrior.

On our arrival flight in, I see gleaming white beaches, turquoise reefs and coconut trees that spread out as far as the eye can see. At the airport, we are greeted by Martin who will oversee us and answer the 7,000 questions I’ve prepared on this land. It’s sauna hot.

We head out past cocoa and tea plantations for our first resort stay at Shangri La Tanjung Aru, an oasis of luxury right on the South China Sea. In the distance are 5 coral islands. A short jetty ride will deposit you to any one for snorkeling the sea caves and world-class diving. Further out is Pulau Tiga with its mud volcanoes where the first Survivor series was shot.

Here we’re spoiled like a couple of pot bellied pigs with an upgraded suite with fruit and orchids as well as a beachside massage. I feel like I’ve reached Nirvana with a mantra of “I’m not worthy” but I revel in all the amenities. Its pure playtime with activities provided here. And the spectacular Malaysian buffet breakfasts should be filmed by the Food Channel.

Kota Kinabalu (aka KK) is the capital of Sabah with 340,000 inhabitants. My expectations of Borneo were of 5ft. monitor lizards and head hunting tribal chiefs, but here I’m greeted with Starbucks and mega-malls.

The city is worn and struggling hard to develop itself. Established by the British in 1881, it also has a lot WWII history. The city’s backdrop is the breathtaking 13,600 ft. Mt. Kinabalu, UNESCO W.H. Site for being the most bio-diverse mountain on earth.

It holds a complete ecosystem and is a botanical paradise. There’s an astonishing array of rare flora and fauna such as insect eating plants, funky fungi and raffelsia, the worlds largest flower of 3ft. petals. It takes 2 years to bud and lasts just 7 days.

The lush National Park is the size of Singapore. Hillside tribes reside on the slopes. The mountain is scared to them as they believe it is the resting place of their ancestors departed spirits.

For free time we tour museums, handicraft markets and water village. I buy gifts of pearls, organic teas, coffee, batik and baskets. As Americans, we feel like VIP tourists as most visitors are from Australia, UK, Japan and Europe.

The locals are so respectful and polite. There are 30 ethnic groups speaking 80 different languages who live harmoniously together. Many are animists who worship all living things. The main tribes are the Dusuns with their female priestesses, the Bajau’s known as the “cowboys of the sea” and the Murats who live in typical longhouses. They are descendants of the famed head hunters who once fiercely protected their territories and decorated their homes with “trophies” that were severed heads of their invaders.

Many here look Polynesian. Bahasa Malay is the main language, a dialect that sounds to me like they’re speaking in tongues. Second language is English.

In August I bring 2 groups here. We’ll enter the interior to discover the essence of Borneo with its virgin rainforests, lush wetlands and enough wildlife to feel you’ve entered a living zoo.

We’ll learn of the culture and history but the thrilling part for me will be seeing the rare species of pigmy elephants, Sumatra rhino, giant crocs, bearded pigs, gibbons, macaques and omni-present proboscis monkeys (the one’s with Jimmy Duranti noses.)

The highlight will be Sepilok, the largest orangutan sanctuary where we can get close and personal with these “wild men of Borneo.”

Evenings by the ocean here provide a surreal beauty that envelopes one in serenity and it’s totally romantic. I hate to leave but it’s time to visit another resort I have booked for my groups.

The Shangri La Rasa Ria is a slice of heaven where one can do nothing or everything. There’s morning yoga, Tai Chi, golf, ATV’s, horses, parasailing, a huge spa and more. Classes are given in Malay language, cooking, sarong wrapping, beading, blow pipes and weaving. But what makes this resort ultra-special is its Nature Reserve.

The hotel helps fund orphaned orangutans here. If the jungle continues to shrink, these gentile creatures will face extinction in the wild. Dr. Galdikas of OFI (Orangutan Foundation Int.) grimly predicts, “Unless extreme action is taken soon, these forests could be one in 5 to 7 years and the wild orangutan with them.”

We attend a lecture by a ranger to learn about the “man of the jungle”, world’s second largest ape. Genetically they are 96.4% human and are considered the most sentimental creatures on earth. We are led by trail up mountain slopes to view 7 protected baby orangutans, most orphaned from illegal logging that destroyed their homes.

Unlike other primates, they prefer playing over fighting. “Limon” had a tough early life. His mother was killed and eaten by plantation workers. They kept him as a pet chained to the wall of a wooden crate for 4 years until Forest Police rescued him. When he arrived here, he was a sack of bones and dying.

For 10 days he refused to eat until one day, a sweet pineapple changed his life. He devoured it in entirety and since then, Limon hasn’t stopped eating. Now he’s 5 times heavier and stuffs himself silly. Upon graduation, he will be released back into the forest.

I look forward to my return and experiencing the real mystical Borneo. The best journey is always the one going home. As I board Singapore Airlines, I feel I’ve gained 6 kilos from all the seafood I consumed. I sleep like a baby on the long haul home via Taipei. The miracle of it all is that my checked luggage managed to follow me 19,000 miles roundtrip and the fact that I still love airplanes.

Susan Davis
http://www.articlesbase.com/travel-articles/briefly-in-borneo-a-sight-inspection-102492.html


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Jun
15

Professional Detachment in Leadership and Communication

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Reza Hossein Borr

Your tolerance determines the level of your professionalism.  Your tolerance also determines the stability of your mood and your mental state when least desirable actions happen.  Professional detachment is required because people are susceptible to anger and frustration when they are not required to happen.  People get angry when their expectations of a good thing from an event are not delivered.  If people learn that what ever happens they will take the best advantage, then they will be less affected by what happens. Anger happens when people think there was something that could have been avoided but it was not avoided because somebody was foolish.  If people think that anger happens because of lack of professional detachment, it will raise a big question about their professionalism.

Professional detachment means mastering some psychological techniques that detach the person from his emotions during carrying out a project. It is about getting a new attitude towards what happens regardless of its intensity.  This may be called insensitivity but in fact insensitivity is different from being professionally detached.  Professional detachment is about looking at the events from a reasonable distance without being involved directly into action or taking what happens outside as a personal matter.  Setting yourself away from the events and observing them as an observer while they happen prevent uncontrolled emotions in your appearance.

Since what you feel appears in your face and your voice and body movements, it is important to prepare yourself before getting involved in what it may become a painful event or a controversial statement.  When your voice started trembling and your body started shaking or the colour of your face started changing, you are affected deeply and what you do is far from professionalism.  Nobody wants to get out of control.  It is the reason that professional detachment has been developed to prevent embarrassment and uncalculated actions.  Keeping in mind that it does not take a long time before a person is provoked into instant radical reactions, preventative actions are difficult to make once the trigger is performed.  What happens after that is about damage control.  Damage is already done badly but could be controlled if the person has learnt some strategies for cooling down himself immediately.

The best strategy for remaining calm and cool in tough times or in expected or unexpected tough events is developing sufficient resources and human qualities to increase tolerance to a high-level.  Tolerance is not something that could be mastered very quickly because you want to have it.  Tolerance must be gradually learnt step-by-step and tested.  It is not something that cannot be not achieved.  But it is something that needs to be rehearsed, practically under supervision, possibly in the real world.  There are many strategies and techniques that can prevent frustration and anger.  Whatever actions trigger the emergence of unwanted feelings and emotions, this belief must be developed that it is possible to change negative states and foster positive states.

Different mental states are the products of the unconscious system.  Unconscious system can be trained to avoid the production of painful emotions. Pain is the result of emotional attachment when it is triggered negatively.  Happiness is also the result of emotional attachment when it is triggered positively.  Pain comes when negative emotions get attached to one particular incident and they come out without control if the incident is attached to a series of incidents.  Happiness is the result of positive emotional attachment when they are triggered by positive incidents attached to each other. Happiness continues if the number of positive incidents increase and get chained together. 

Emotional people necessarily will get either upset or happy quickly.  The distance between pain and happiness is a short distance in the line of human emotions in people whose states become painful or joyful instantly. The numbers of things that happen and are neutral are very small for them.  The absolute majority of the issues, incidents, talks and thoughts fall in one of the negative or positive category and trigger either painful or joyful emotions. 

If the distance between the point of pain and point of happiness is very short, the person becomes moody and swings quickly from pain to happiness and sometime stops happiness from happening when pain takes over his whole body very quickly.  Once negative emotions of pain took over the body, it is very difficult to generate the feeling of happiness. The body becomes the source of production of destructive chemicals that poison the body and it takes a long time before the poison moves out of the system.

When the distance between pain and joy is very long, the tolerance for experiencing painful and joyful events become more and the people do not get into swinging emotions.  They show patience and remain cool. Emotions must enjoy stability of movement and not sudden or saddened upsurge if tolerance and coolness are to be achieved and integrated into unconscious mind.

Nothing generates more respect for you when you remain cool while everybody expects you to become irritated.

Reza Hossein Borr is an NLP Master Trainer and a leadership consultant and the creator of 150 CDs and 14 Change management models. He is also the author of Manual Success, Manual of Coaching and Mentoring, Motivational Stories that Can Change Your Life, and a New Vision for the Islamic World. He can be contacted by email: sarawani@aol.com    http://www.rezaaa.com

Dr Reza Borr
http://www.articlesbase.com/leadership-articles/professional-detachment-in-leadership-and-communication-669393.html


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Jun
15

Learn to Speak Auto Designers’ Lingo

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When you go to auto shows, you do not use dashboard to mean the vehicle’s instrument panel. This is because you might be misleading other people. Dropping layman’s terms is easy but you will get plus points if you speak the designer’s tongue.

Each profession has its lingo. And for one to be better understood he must know the common terms or at least a few of the most colorful words used by experts. In the automotive world, metal and words unite. And auto brand’s vocabulary is known as the colorful realm of design language.

The beltline separates the greenhouse, or glassed-in upper body, from the part that widens down from the window sills. Michael Castiglione, the principal exterior designer at DaimlerChrysler’s Pacifica studio in Carlsbad, Calif., said that equally important is the A-line. The A-line is the length of the vehicle’s body from headlight to taillight. The vehicle may also have a crease created in the sheet metal of the sides called the character line.

Styling cues are also used to prompt recognition of a particular model to other product lines of the same brand. The cues include the curve of the roofline, the distinct design of the grille, as well as the shapes and lines of the vehicle.

The angle of the windshield called rake could convey different meaning. It is said to be fast when it extremely tilts. The rocker panel which is the body section below the base of the door is treated with a varying degree of turn-under. Chris Chapman of BMW’s Designworks studio in Newbury Park, Calif., defines it as the shape of the panel as it curves inward at the lower edge.

Stance tells you whether the auto sits on the wheels with superb energy or not. Robert Boniface, the director of advanced design for General Motors, recently worked on the Chevrolet Volt and the Camaro show cars. He said that “stance has to do with the relative visual stability or instability of a particular design.”

According to Bryan Thompson, the designer at the Nissan Design America studio in La Jolla, Calif., another essential relationship is that one found between the glass and the body. “A vehicle whose body is relatively thick compared to the amount of glass is called chunky. The proportion between wheel and body sizes is important in lending a vehicle its visual personality,” he said.

Thompson added, “Wheel-to-body is the relationship of the wheel-tire plane to the sheet metal wheel opening. Wheels that are flush to the body are desirable. Wheels that are well inboard of the sheet metal plane are buried. Vehicles with buried wheels are called overbodied. At its extreme, an overbodied car has the look of a parade float, with the body visually overpowering the wheels.”

Peter Davis, the director of interior design at General Motors, said the space between wheel and surrounding fender or wheel well suggests the jounce of the car. The intervening space between tire and wheel well is sometimes called the dead cat hole. He described the British-sounding mucketts as “complicated rubber moldings that hide nasty window-door frame areas or direct water drips to appropriate places.” “In Italy,” he added, “what we call the plenum, the area at the base of the windshield where the wipers sit and run off is directed is called the vasca di pesce, or fish bowl.”

Another term to define the personality of the car is its axle-to-dash ratio, the proportion between the front wheel and the cowl or the base of the windshield. There is also what is dubbed the roller skate effect. It happens when the tires and wheels are too small for the body.

There are so many terms in the auto industry realm. And it is an edge on your part to know them all. The next time you purchase EBC greenstuff or other auto parts, you will not be surprised to hear those terms.

Anthony Fontanelle
http://www.articlesbase.com/automotive-articles/learn-to-speak-auto-designers-lingo-128921.html


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Jun
15

How to Use Body Language to Drive Home a Point

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Many people know how important body language is in effective persuasion and communications. Thus, when you’re trying to emphasize a certain point or idea, simply saying how enthused you are with an event is not enough.

For instance, if a friend came to you and told you news about his promotion, saying something like “That’s wonderful news!” with a rather blank expression runs the risk of the other person getting the impression that you’re just pulling his leg and talking through your teeth.

In order to express your statements fully, you need to accompany your expressions and comments with the right kind of body language. According to experts on the art of body language interpretation, there are two things you should keep in mind.

First, to emphasize a point, you need to apply body language that is concurrent with the statement. Second, you need to hyperbolize a bit.

For example, if you want to stress how large the lot you’re selling is, you can further drive the point home by stretching your arms out really wide while saying something like, “The property is so vast (stretch arms out wide) that you can practically build a house with a basketball court and pool there.” Using metaphors with body language works better.

You can shake or nod your head to react to an idea or event, take huge steps to show excitement, pound your fist on the desk and stomp your foot if you need to show a little aggression, and change your facial expressions according to the need.

Of course, not all body language have to be blatant to be effective. Sometimes, subtlety works a lot better, especially if you’re trying to convince someone to buy what you’re selling. Subtle body movements include cupping your palms and leaning forward to show you are serious, crossing your arms over your chest to signify that you’re not understanding the other party’s claims, and inclining your head to one side to reflect wonder.

To illustrate, you will know if the person you are talking to is losing interest in what you’re saying if he starts looking at his watch, shaking his leg, or tapping his foot. Shifty eyes are also an indicator of boredom, though it can also mean that the person is lying in another situation.

Indeed, communication is not just characterized by words. Body movements say a lot about what you are thinking at that particular moment; so if you’re a very transparent person, it’s not likely that you’ll be able to hide anything. It’s a different situation when you’re playing poker though.

Michael Lee
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/how-to-use-body-language-to-drive-home-a-point-104099.html


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Jun
15

Where can I learn how to read Body Language?

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I’ve always been very intrigued by people that could read body language, and would like to try to teach myself how. I work in a 4 star hotel, and feel it would be very useful. Does anyone know of a website or book that goes through the basics of body language?

What an amazing coincidence this is. Just last night I found myself wondering a very similar thing. I’ve found a couple if sites, although they deal with slightly different things to what I think you want.

http://www.getmeacoolinterview.com/interview-technique-body-language-part-1.html

http://www.businessweek.com//careers/content/feb2007/ca20070207_700175.htm

http://www.arg.com/njords-hall/g2l/njords-guide-to-body-language/

If you want more specifically to be able to read body language, it is probably very easy to find it by Googling ‘how to read body language‘. I did just that, and the very first result I got was http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Body-Language which should itself to the job perfectly, however, in case it doesn’t, I’ll link a few of the other best ones on the first page of my Google search, in no particular order:

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Read-Body-Language—Top-10-Tips&id=991635

http://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/body_language/body_language.htm

http://www.squidoo.com/readingbodylanguage

I hope that this helps. If you need more information, just add extra details, and I’ll check back at least daily.


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